• Educator listening to a coworker
    ACEs/Resilience,  Communication

    Educators, Listening, and Building Resilience

    So … I went crazy and went back to school. I did it because I fell in love. Not with a person, but with the work I was doing to spread the word about trauma, especially adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). I love this work for many reasons, but I’m driven by the idea that when we know the way the past affects us we can give ourselves the credit we deserve for still standing. For still trying, hoping. For being resilient. During my master’s work I had a wonderful experience with middle school educators. They sounded like they had a great time, too. We explored the ways they used listening…

  • Health & Wellness

    Breathe – Listen

    Just a reminder. Things being what they are these days, it’s helpful to pause and breathe while you do something kinda small. Get back into your body, instead of wherever you wind up while working. Or doing some household chore. Or dealing with another person while they, you, or both play whatever cards life has dealt. Try it while taking a little trip outdoors that is totally not related to exercise. One of my favorite breathe-able trips is a ride on the Jamestown-Scotland Ferry in Surry County, Virginia. Once on the ferry, it’s nice to stand outside of the car, let the wind wash your face, and listen to the…

  • 6/1/19 Walnut Hill Tiger Trot
    ACEs/Resilience,  Happenings

    Family Engagement

    On the very rainy Saturday morning of June 1st, I had the opportunity to support Walnut Hill Elementary School’s first Tiger Trot and Health Fair. Families came out and walked or ran the 5K course, or part of it, with amazing energy. Rain? No problem! I heard about it from the school’s Family Engagement Specialist, Ms. Parker, who connected me with the right staff person. So, some fellow members of the Petersburg Wellness Consortium joined me to make sure we could support the event on somewhat short notice (my fault). Bless them! I LOVE the folks in the Petersburg City Public School System’s Family Engagement Department. I’m using the word…

  • Listening supports trauma-informed care.
    ACEs/Resilience,  Communication

    Listening and Trauma-Informed Care

    I can’t believe it’s been more than a month since I led a workshop at the International Listening Association’s 40th Annual Convention in Vancouver, Canada. Time really does fly! And I admit, it flies faster as you get older. Maybe because there’s always so much stuff to do, great and small. At the convention, where the theme was “Listening to Conflict,” I started working from the belief that all conflict actually starts inside of us. I believe listening, genuinely listening to ourselves and others, helps us affirm what’s happening inside of us, so we can better handle what’s going there as well as on the outside. I shared how my…

  • "Blooming" Beautifully
    ACEs/Resilience,  Happenings

    Blooming…Whatever It Looks Like

    A lot of people are thinking about fertilizer this time of year, and lots of other smelly, messy things that make beautiful and vital plants grow. What if we use that as a way of thinking about and addressing ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences)? When I first heard about ACEs and their impact on lifelong health and wellness, it was sobering to discover that a majority of us faced a potentially life-changing traumatic experience when we were children. However, I feel blessed to believe that once you know, it can make all the difference in the world. You can acknowledge and celebrate the fact that no matter how your life looks…

  • Communication tools are only as good as the user.
    Communication

    Communication Is An Inside Job

    Exactly what is meant by communication? communication[kuh-myoo-ni-key-shuh n], noun the act or process of communicating; fact of being communicated. the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs. something imparted, interchanged, or transmitted. a document or message imparting news, views, information, etc. passage, or an opportunity or means of passage, between places. communications, means of sending messages, orders, etc., including telephone, telegraph, radio, and television. routes and transportation for moving troops and supplies from a base to an area of operations. –Dictionary.com I’m not sure I’ve ever seen or heard “communication” used under Number 5, above, but I like it. A dictionary dive every now and…